Very concerned mother
You know that the other adults you spoke to were wrong.
And you see that this is a pattern that started long before you arrived, and what it has done to the two boys, already.
This is a fire alarm. Get your little ones out of there, NOW!
Your instincts have told you what to do. Act! Immediately!
Move! Think about it later...when you are all safe...when your feelings settle down.
This world is full of people who wonder why at least one parent, or family member, didn't stand up for them.
Your babies need your protection, AND your peaceful understanding of THEIR needs. You can only help when you are all safe.
Make them feel safe. Make them feel you are safe, too.
You can do this.
Get your feet moving. All other answers will fall into place once you are safe.
Good for you for noticing what you must do! You will find the way.
Arms around you.
F.