Hello, Just a thought, but you might want to read the book, The 5 love languages, by gary chapman. It sounds that your love language is physical touch, she may not understand this, if you read the book together, you will figure out her love language, as well as she will see the importance of yours. Hopefully this will aslo open up the door to more communication. I know for me, as a woman, when my DH and I are unable to communicate openly, the physical part does not work as well either.