Re: ok I've given up need advice

I wish to answer your question, but I want to choose my words, carefully, so that you do not misunderstand my response or the inherent issues involved.

Before anyone flies off the deep end over my perceptions on this issue, I woud like to explain that either "solution" to the physical sex issue has VERY SERIOUS side effects and I agree with the suggestion to simply spank the monkey. IF one could separate the physical from the emotional, entering into a strictly physical business arrangement with a clean, safe call-girl/prostitute is not unreasonable, IF you chose to use a condom and IF you had the emotional ability to keep your feelings separated from the cllmax. HOWEVER, keeping a physical business relationship STRICTLY physical with no emotional attachments is often impossible - after an cllmax, people tend to feel that they'll never experience anything as good with anyone else and confuse the satisfaction with an emotional bond. A savvy prostitute knows this and can garner a whole host of long-term clients. She makes a ton of money while her clients are left wanting something more than just an hour's worth of sexual satisfaction and it just isn't going to happen. It is NOT uncommon for clients of prostitutes to become enamoured of their source of sexual gratification and, when their "love" is unrequited, the "relationship" ends in violence.

This is the oldest profession and it has very, very serious repercussions to all parties involved. I support the idea of self-gratification rather than entering into one-night-stands (objectification, hollow encounter, disease, jealous boyfriend/husband, etc.) or the hiring of a prostitute, but you'll have to make your own decision.

Best wishes to you!