Please, remember...

I know that it seems as if your son is the crux of this problem since he was the one acting-out the sexual activity, but you need to understand that he is the primary victim. Your son has been victimized, objectified, and degraded in a way that no child (or, adult) should ever have to experience. That poor kid will have problems with trust, his own sexual orientation and identity, authority, shame, humiliation, and many, many other negative factors that will forever shape his personality if he isn't given the help that he needs. What happened to him is not his fault and his acting-out is not his fault, either, EVEN though he might have understood that his behaviors were not acceptable. He's a little kid without the benefit of wisdom and he and his sister need counseling, yesterday.

You posted, "but i think we have it handled right now..." You do not have it "handled" and it won't be "handled" until your children are given the help that they need to process what they've each experienced.

Again, you and your precious children remain in my prayers.