Re: hurting yourself vs hurting another

"You are young and frankly in ten years you will probably regret leaving him. I think you should give the relationship 10 years."

In ten years, you could earn a Master's Degree, become a corporate CEO, learn a form of artistic expression, etc.

Perhaps, I would consider counseling (joint AND individual) with a recommended therapist. There might be underlying reasons for the unhappiness and solutions/techniques/emotional tools will help open the doors of communication and understanding. In addition, you could enroll in courses that interest you, become involved in a volunteer project that helps others in need. You could involve yourself in a dozen activities that would enhance your Self (your Life's Spark) and, thusly, enhance your understanding of a loving, respectful, safe, encouraging, supportive partnership that is based upon those attributes. Passion is really, REALLY overrated. Passion tends to diminish over time. I am best friends with my partner and, though we have our moments and disagreements, I am comfortable and safe in our relationship.

In the end, you will have to choose what you feel is best for you. Best wishes to you. Tweet