Thank you Soulfulsurvivor!!!!!!

You just gave me confirmation of what I have been feeling and telling my husband. When you said,"
I opt to walk away from anyone who creates a negative influence in my life - be they family, friends, or coworkers. If I have no choice but to be exposed to them (coworkers, in particular), I keep the interaction to a minimum and try as best as I can to avoid falling into the cesspool that they love to stir up."

THANK YOU! My mother is a complete NPD fullblown and she sucks the energy out of everyone around her, she tries to pit her kids against each other, manipulate everyone, shes a hypochondirac....literally misses 1-2 days EVERY WEEK with some sort of "sickness" (has diabetes and eats a whole box of chocolate donuts by herself)and she can never complement anyone...she will follow up with an insult. Like when I remodeled my kitchen myself she said "oh it's nice...now all you have to do is fix your front yard and your gate" even the tiniest comments like that she has to stick in a downer. She's divorced for 6 years now, she has no friends, all she does is complain about her coworkers(everything is their fault) (was married to a pervert that abused us and she knew about it and denied it and i was taken into foster care) and then when it is convenient to her she talks about "the F**cker/pervert" as she calls him (when it suits her)
~anyways lately I just had enough of her drama, antics, and negative energy. I don't want my children around it and I am on a quest to undo my childhood damage and heal myself and being around her just makes it worse. She denies everything though. she'll say one thing and then 5 min later she'll act like you are crazy and she has no idea what you are talking about...ITS FREAKY! so i decided to stay away from her/ my husband was saying it wasn't nice to be like that... i told him

she steals my energy and makes me feel crappy....just because she is my mother doesn't mean she gets to treat me like crap. I can choose who I want in my life and I choose people who are positive..people that it is a give and take with...building each other up.....anyways thank you for your comment...I was beginning to doubt myself and finding your post was a certain sign today that I am making the right choice....for me to be healthy I can not be dragged down by her.

Now....any ideas on how to deal with the pains shes caused ?:)