I feel your pain and am very sorry that you have discovered that you have TMJ. I also have headaches that accompany my TMJ, and they are awful. I began putting warm compresses on my head and trigger points in order to ease my pain...but it was getting too frustrating to hold it up for a long time. I looked online and found a great product that really helps me out. I've used this product for the past couple of months called the IceCaddy. It's a velcro sling that goes around my head and lets me warm my neck completely hands free. It has two pouches and comes with two packs for your convenience. You can position the IceCaddy so it goes directly onto your problem areas. It should really help you out.