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Hello Little Sis,

Oh my gosh, a whole new world huh? Yikes.

Sounds like everything is changing: recovering your health and poise, life as a single woman with her own life, detox from a very scary time, listening to your own still small voice, even thinking about dating.

Don't date anybody yet. That's gonna be the last piece you have to worry about.
That goes double for dating HIM. This isn't the time yet for couples counseling even if he asked you to go. He beat you up and caused you a head injury, so even if HE searches the Net for hours to diagnose himself, it's not your job to help him recover from Narcissism or anything else. You don't even to have forgive him yet. Forgiveness can happen naturally when your own needs are being met and you are safe!

The first job is healing up. If you are searching the Net to help anybody, it's great that you found Cure Zone and logged on here. This might sound stupid, but I really needed (badly) to read and re-read and re-read a book with the dumb title "Women Who Love Too Much." It helped me SO much. It includes lots of tips helping women to catch their breath after getting the rug pulled out from under.

It is TOTALLY NORMAL to feel depressed and shaken up after a head injury.
It is also totally normal to feel even more depressed and shaken up after being seriously injured by someone you trusted and bonded to as a very young girl. (Well, or as a person of any age.)

So it could be really good to take a deep breath right this second. (Go ahead, I'll wait........................................)
And then do something nice for this wonderful brave body of yours that took all that pain and is still forging ahead through life. Go eat a Celery stalk or stretch out or take a little walk or a bath. Or all of them.

Of course this feels terrible.
You get to do now what you didn't get to do at 15: invent your own life. That must sound like a heartless thing to say, but you know what? Life after him, after a guy who clocked your precious head, gets a whole lot better! The world is FULL of wonderful places with wonderful people who will see you and meet you and never, ever, ever think of hitting you! Millions of these people will be happy to treat you better than he did!

Please let us know how you are doing,
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