Please read my message VERY CAREFULLY! I truly understand your situation and pridicament, because I am actually living something very similiar right now and have been for a long while now, accept for the fact that I actually am married to the man that I share no desire with. I could write you a book about this, but I will try to make it short. My husband is my high school sweetheart and the very first man that I ever shared myself with. I did and I do still Love him very much because he is a good man with a pretty good heart and I know that he Loves me as much as he KNOWS how to. The problem is that with him, I feel so lonely all the time(even when I am with him). A while back, his lack of intimacy, passion and dseire, encouraged me to find and experience those things elsewhere. I did not set out to have an affair on my husband, lonliness and emptiness left me open to it. What I am trying to say to you is that I am still with my husband, but it is not working out. After actually experiencing those beautiful, wonderful and natural feelings with someone-its almost impossible to go back to not experiencing them. Although I am still with him(at the moment), our marraige is really over. I resent him for not being able to make me feel desirable and all of those other feelings that should should come naturally in a healthy and Loving relationship. PLEASE know that you MUST desire your mate, if the relationship is going to work and not have anyone straying!!! You need both the LOVE and the DESIRE as well as PASSION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!