Dishonest person on a dating forum even though it's in the friendship catagory...

I've been on a internet dating forum and there's one person whom with things are going alright with. We're just dating and I'm already intimate with her. So far, so good.

There's this other person (Jill) however who I started corresponding with on that same dating forum. We were sending emails back and forth and she starts sending me these cheesy chain-letters (no offense to anyone but I think chain-letters are lame) and I politely wrote her to take me off of the chain-letter list. I told her that I wasn't in fear that someone was going to wreck my credit rating or kill me but that I wasn't comfortable with my email address going around to 40 strangers. She understood and told me that things were starting to get serious with this one guy without hardly any details about it (which is alright) and after a few more letters I wrote a short letter stating that I could deal with being friends with her.

9 times out of 10 I won't be the dickless friend of a chick because it gives them the benefit of looking like a mail magnent while the male's self-esteem gets a little lower. But I figured why not be friends with her, I mean, she has a masters degree, I'm just a high school graduate getting certified in a computer course, I'm 30, she's 44 with a 19 year old daughter, so I didn't feel the need to try dating her.

Anyways, I wrote a letter saying to her "I don't need an email pal, whom I've never met who lives 15 miles away. But if you aren't exclusive with that person whom you're starting to see a lot of I'd like to see you some time. She replies that she's exclusive with that new man but that she's like to get together soon. So last Friday I wrote an email stating how I don't believe in organized religion amongst other things. I figured what the hell, we're only going to be friends anyways, and I even state at the end of the letter that "Well, I hope I didn't scare you with my anti-religious views but we're only supposed to be friends or acquaintances"

The weekend rolls on by with no reply and that's no big deal. I already have someone else (Irene) who's already expressed the possibility of being interested (I'll write another letter about that one to this forum since I could use feedback on that as well) plus the first lady mentioned is already involved with a new guy so it's not like I was waiting on her letter. This is the only paragraph that has anything to do with Irene. The rest of this is about Jill.

Today (Tuesday) I check that dating forum to see Jill's profile just to see if she had any deep religious beliefs that I might have offended. Not that I cared too much but it was more out of curiosity. And I come to find that she updated her profile the day after she CLAIMED that she was exclusive with a new person.

It sure didn't appear so to me and I was a bit insulted so I wrote brief letter, without name calling, stating that obviously she isn't exclusive with someone and that being friends with a liar isn't exactly my cup of tea.

She responds to my letter sent through the dating system as well as sending a letter to my email address claiming that her friends were using her dating system ID. I've contacted women for mail friends of mine had them use my system and I've gone though other male's membership ID's and I never thought about updating their profile. It sure doesn't add up. she wrote that she didn't appreciate being called a liar but that she still wants to be friends.

She also said that she had a boyfriend who played in a band in high school so she could understand band life. Unless her that band did tours like my bands had that's not even minor league compared to my band experience.

Anyways, she said that she wants to be friends. Gee, why is that, so that she can look popular in front of whover she's going out with? I haven't responded. Oh yeah, she wrote she was "offended to be called a liar."

If she's so damn offended then why is she trying to convince me that I misunderstood her. I know the computer dating game and in the past I updated my profile to either have it listed as one of the first profiles since new profiles are more prominent or to simpley change it. I can't completely remember her profile but for someone who's "exclusive" with a guy she sure doesn't seem like it. I felt like I was lied to about the so-called boyfriend and even though I'm not interested in a relationship with her and in the past I used to occasionally swallow other people's lies and excuses. NO MORE OF THAT. Even if it's light friendships, I don't have time for bullshit artists.
I think I did the right thing but I'd appreciate input from you Relationship Forum people. Am I "Jumping to conclusions" like she says I am?

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