I read you letter and must tell you now, that if you take him back your life will be a miserey. He has only come back because he has been blasted out by this stripper. these women are not into relationships as we know them! You sound like a nice person who deserves to be treated with respect. This guy is not going to give it to you, he is so shallow and does not realise whathad. I'd say let him suffer. You not taking him back will not mess up his life. He does that on his own. I know you love him, but please think about you future happiness first.