Re: Thought she was the one!!!

There is no way around it - in HER mind you are going to be the bad guy, but that doesn't make it true. There is nothing wrong with doing what is best for you. Seems like she's strategically devised a way for others to take responsibility for a relationship. Don't fall for this by engaging in a lot of discussion and emotional drama that only serves to validate her feeling 'rejected' and justifies her manipulative behavior. If you know you want to end the relationship keep it simple and tell her that you need to focus on other aspects of your life and a long-distance relationship isn't working for you. What she's doing is very passive-aggressive and people who behave in this way frequently will trigger others to display a lot of emotion so that the problem appears to be someone elses - especially anger. Don't get sucked in! Tweet