how about...

You can be angry about anything you want. The question is: is your anger going to make the situation better or worse?

I have an acquaitance who recently got married. His spouse actually asked him to marry her. When it came time to decide on the last name issue, she refused to change hers to his. He got upset about it. Eventually, over time, he got over it and accepted the fact that she had a right to have her name whatever she wanted it to be. Then, amusingly enough, she decided that she wanted to take his name.

Funny how that works.

You're the one with the problem with the pictures, so I wouldn't be surprised if he's putting you through some sort of subconscious test at the moment. Will you throw the pictures out? You're the one that has the problem with him. Will you be the one to take his past away from him?

All you're doing is admitting that your relationship isn't strong enough to handle him keeping momentos from his past that you object to. But you're trying to get him to prove that the relationship is, however, strong enough that he'll do something for you that he'd rather not do. Sounds pretty manipulative -- and not in a good way.

I'll bet if you'd taken the pictures you found to him and made fun of him about it -- teasing him with not a care in the world whether or not he had those pictures -- he'd be on the road to tossing them out. Maybe he'd have shrugged and tossed 'em into the garbage right then and there. Maybe he'd have wanted to save them, and he'd have put them back somewhere, only to be forgotten again for a few years, then discovered some day, chuckled over and then tossed. Any number of possibilities...

But you made him out to be a bad guy for it, and now you, YOU, are choosing to make a big deal out of it. You've even come here to try to get ammo to prove to him how wrong he is. You've even gone so far as to label him abnormal.

Your relationship as it stands right now is doomed.

=-John-=
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