hey mntndeww, what is even more messed up is that when a woman does takes control, most often (not always) she becomes in the guys eye: a bitch, b: a control freak, c: the guy falls in love with her right away because he feels like he can be himself without realizing that she's just being nice and civilized...and that kinda blows the casual dating concept all together...
i think it's up to both genders to just chill out a bit and have more fun...instead of trying to grasp so hard at perfection. there is no such thing. :-)