Thanks Thinker... I've lost a bit of my nerve... maybe it comes from turning 42 on Saturday... sometimes I think I'm too old for this whole "dating" thing... i was with my ex hubby for 20 years... so I'm not used to what the "rules" are these days...I have always been myself .. i agree .. and had no intention of " dolling up" .. that just not me... i just wanted to put my best casual foot forward... Well I'm trying to work up the nerve... thanks again ....