Don't give up..there is someone out there for you!!! Your weight is not the problem and that is not why you should be tring to lose weight. A good man will love you no matter what your appearance on the out side. If health is an issue..definately work on the weight. I too am a heavy set woman and men are always approaching me even from a distance. Maybe you are too self conscious about your weight and appear to have low self esteem which is a big turn off to most men and probably the ones you are attracted to. Become more positive about your self for who you are and not what you look like... then and only then will you feel better about yourself but your positive outlook will attract more men as well. :) I am here for you if you want to chat :)