True. However sometimes the desire for closeness seems to be overwhelming, making the touch of someone very desirable. I agree the touch SHOULD be from your spouse, and YES women are complaining that shivelry is dead, well, maybe if they would LET a man be a man and take care of things that are naturally dictated to him(I know that will bring a response from those that are insecure and don't understand the roles of the family)there would be alot less divorce and more stable children.