In my community, where I live, I know at least 15 wives on my block. Only 2 husbands can be said to be true "help" mates. My husband can put away 1/2 a dishwasher load and SWARE that he HELPS me. Men are NOT getting less and less respect, but women are just gaining more self-worth. I am being rational and logical in my situation and see that YES my husband brings home a very descent pay check, but I still do MORE than my share of work. The work load doesn't even compare. As for women having to HAVE TO HAVE SEX NO MATTER WHAT, (unless as you said, we are sick?), that would be a form of rape. Sounds like sainten paul is your sex counselor. If I don't feel emotionally ready and willing, I'm sorry, but I'm not going to tend to my husbands penis.