Teaching Kids about Sex

How should we teach kids about sex? I was taught very little. The little that is taught about the clinical nature of sex really provides little information. How do we teach kids about the opposite gender? Are the line drawings and clinical anatomical discussion good enough? How about self-gratification? Do we just say, "If/when you feel like it, take some lube and touch your gentitals." Should we give our kids soft core p 0 r n to act as visual stimulation? Should we show our kids photographs of the opposite sex? Should we show them photos of how to spank the monkey? Should we show them photos/videos of how to have sex, or should we just tell them it is okay to touch themselves and to touch others who want to be touched? Should we teach our kids how to pleasure others or should we just let them fumble along and figure it out for themselves? Is it child abuse to teach them? Is it child abuse to not teach them? I learned by fumbling along. I made a lot of mistakes along the way. I'm still learning and making mistakes. Is it good or bad to teach them other details? Apparently in some societies, the parents teach the kids how to spank the monkey. In some societies the fathers take the boys to brothels. Although it is totally illegal and sounds repulsive to us in our culture, in some cultures fathers initiate daughters with intercourse (I'm not proposing this at all). We have cultural norms that we have accepted as "truths" that may not really be the best for teaching our kids about these important things?

Just what is appropriate? What is moral? What is immoral?

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