Re: pus-e problem :-(

As a women, I'm sure you realize that every women is different..but it is important to realize that after birth, your hormore system is still in overload. With the estrogen levels higher, I'm sure you've noticed LOTS of physical and appearance changes.. breasts much fuller, nipples engorged, vagainal lubrication differences etc. you may develop mood swings, anxieties, depressions and even bouts of acne.(Geez) It is perfectly normal for your pussy lips to be 'stretched' and enlarged.. and the time before you start to see significant return to your pre-delivery state is dependent on hormonal and physiologic health.. Just like 'stretch marks' may take years to disappear, some women will return to their prebirth weigh and shape faster or slower then others. It will be important that you 'do your part' with Kegal exercises as well as walking and doing the hard work of retraining your body.

As for your man.. Since it would appear that your husband is loving you and cares for you, I would suggest you TRUST that he isn't just telling you what he thinks you want to hear... And Yes, most men who have ANY sensibility will be VERY AWARE of your sensitivity and try to work with you and your insecurities. And yes also, when a man does love a women, physical changes that you consider MONSTEROUS (like acne, stretch marks, enlarged libia major (pussy lips)are 'just a given' and no big deal.. I suspect he hardly notices....and if he does, he and I hope you know, that it really is no big deal.. your body has been through a bunch and healing will take time, effort and energy. LIke you, he too may need to learn how to handle these changes in a loving and caring way. For you, these changes sure feel MAJOR..while to him, it is most likely 'nothing worth worrying about' while at the same time, appreciating how hard it is for you.. Please.. be VERY PATIENT with yourself, FIRST..then with him. Expect LOTS of anxieties, concerns and even depression.. ALL THAT IS PERFECTLY NORMAL.. after all, you have spent 9 months anticipating the birth of your child.. Now the hard work begins of having the responsibility of learning to be a mom and dad. Hopefully you have support people/relatives that can help you with 'girlie' kinds of concerns at home. I'm sure you'll get some here too from females rather then a male.. hehe.. GOOD LUCK. and CONGRADULATIONS.