Re: i would like some input

Hi,

I have been through an awfully long period of abuse, I'm talking 20 years. I have PTSD, and I've had a lot of therapy. It has helped but I'm aware the memories and pain, and the awful nightmares won't go away.

I have some suggestions for you. You have been through extreme stress and this has an effect on the body. The stress I suffered has caused hypothyroidism, adrenal fatigue, candida and something called pyroluria - which one symptom is episodic anger (an explosive temper). Google these to see if you have any symptoms. Hypoglycemia can also cause anger outbursts when you have low blood sugar. Hypoglycemia is common with adrenal fatigue and pyroluria.

Your symptoms may be purely psychological due to trauma, but I though I'd let you know what stress and trauma has done to me, to give you something to look into, another option.

You can try more therapy, but I urge you to investigate into your health and what stress can do to the body.

Also, I recommend talking to your husband, he needs to know what's going on in your head. He is probably very confused about the whole thing as he has no idea what is going on with you. Please share your pain with him, he loves and he'll want to support you with this. I found this out myself, I tell my husband everytime I'm upset, depressed, having flashbacks...and talking to him really helps and makes the bad feelings go away. If I don't tell him what's wrong, he gets really worried and feels bad, and telling him stops him worrying and guessing and that makes me feel good.

Talking is the best thing to do. I really hope things get better for you, you are very brave to come here for help, and you need to realise how strong you are for getting out of the abusive situation. You are a survivor and you have a future ahead of that you can make your own.

I used to let people take advantage, and I try not anymore. It's hard, but you've got to look out for yourself and your family, you and they are imptortant. If these people are that crap that want to take advantage of you then they aren't very nice, which means you shouldn't worry about hurting their feelings by letting them do what they want. Say no, more, and each time you do it, it will get less difficult and you will feel stronger and empowered. If you upset someone by saying no, it's not your problem as they weren't thinking of you by putting you in the situation.

God bless x