Seems as though you pretty much have your mind made up. You are deceiving yourself on many issues. Never did I say "get over it" and if things are so busy that you can't or don't take time to "get into the mood" because of your "busy life" then the sad fact is sister that one day you may wake up and find hubby distanced or gone, then it will be "what happened?" or "What did I do?" May sound harsh now but if and when it does happen I think these words will ring true. That's what I mean by deceiving yourself.