I wonder if you looking to find inner beauty first may kind place you in a different species as far a potential boyfriends are concerned? When people are looking for someone as a mate...I think they look for something chemical first...something that says to their body...this person will be a good mate....If you never send those chemical signals to the other person...because you are looking for something...not physical...your male friends may never get the signal...
When I was young...I was carnal...and physical intimacy was easy...As I became more spiritual...I would have this battle between my spirit man and carnal man...You already won your battle to become enlightened...you just skipped the carnal part...You became a different species...a spirit centered being...
If you really want to meet a potential mate...you might try wearing perfume and red clothing...bright colors..walk as if you want someone to make love to you...But if I were you...I would only try this on one of those beautiful spirits that you have met..because in the long run...what you have in common will make your relationship last longer...or so they say...just a guess... : )