I have to add one more thing

While I was getting ready for work, I thought I would tell you this.....

You should find out why you are attracted to this type of guy in the first place. He might have charmed you and you had no clue he was like this, but, speaking from my own experience, I have always been attracted to guys like that.

Whe I was in high school back in the 60's (late 60's, I would add-Ha) I would always love the "James Dean" guys. They were the guys who hung out in the "smoke hole" and they wore t-shirts rolled up to reveal the big muscles. They drove "cool" cars and would drive those cool cars fast and play "chicken" with other cars. I married one of those "cool guys." That cool guy also drank a lot, was very abusive, but charming when he needed to be. He was extremely popular and the laugh of every party. He also loved other women.

When I finally left him, I was a big time party girl and would be one again if I were single. I settled into another relationship with a great guy who was very soft spoken, but when he told me he put himself through college making "drug runs" along the Gulf Coast, instead of running the opposite way, I thought that was another "cool guy." Big mistake. He could smoke 18-25 joints per day. So, because pot is not legal here in America, we spent a lot of time with drapes drawn and hanging out with only drug people. He would go through airports with enough pot to supply my state, but it never dawned on me I could go to jail. I just thought I was with this cool guy!

My husband now is what I refer to as a "preppie redneck." I have matured in my selection of men, thank goodness!

But,to this day, I love the show "The Sopranos" because those are "cool guys." Thank God I never met John Gotti because I would have thrown myself at his feet. Ha

I guess I felt like I should tell you this to bear my soul and tell you that if you are drawn to this type of man, (and there are thousands of us like me) I just wanted to tell you that you are not alone. Paulette G.

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