Re: Learning to Forgive

I don't think forgiveness will be possible until you have fully taken your power back, and taking your boyfriend over there with you was a great first step. I am so sorry he did not offer an apology. For what it is worth, he might really think he is in love with you, and he might just be playing you. But he is incapable of loving anybody. No contact would be a great place to start if it is possible. If not, I would probably let him know that I would contact his parole officer if he didn't stay far far away from me at family events. But the most powerful think you could do would be to press molestation charges and have him put back in jail. Not sure if you want to go that far to punish someone who is mentally ill, unless you think he might be molesting others, and he very well could be. There was something similar going on in my family. When one person finally pressed charges against him, ten other people came forward and said "He did it to me too!" The guy will be in prison for the rest of his life. The sickest part is that his letters to the family are all very upbeat and happy. He keeps telling everyone how great it is in there. He says he hated his job, he hated his marriage, and the only thing he misses is being able to see his children. Otherwise, it sounds like he is a little kid writing home from a boy scout camp retreat. And he is studying to become a minister. I am sure he was molested when he was a kid, and he probably enjoyed it. That is how people really get messed up and think it is okay to do the same thing to others. I wrote to him a few times and tried to get him to discuss it with me, because his grandfather molested me, and I am pretty sure he was molested by him too. But he quit writing to me when I brought up the subject. Tweet