Learning to Forgive

I am so sorry for the dreadful abuses that were perpetrated against you. You did not deserve what was done to you and you are not........NOT.........responsible for the choices and actions of the uncle. His "private" words to you after his release clearly demonstrate that he is a human predator and very high in psychopathic traits. He harmed you simply because he could and it is quite likely and probable that there are many other victims of his abuses.

Having typed that, I believe that it is way too soon to even entertain the possibility of forgiveness. Forgiveness - true forgiveness - is a thoroughly contemplated choice that becomes an OPTION after lengthy emotional processing. IMHO, this can only be successful with the help and guidance of a strong counseling therapist who specializes in trauma recovery. And, recovery and healing from such a vicious betrayal requires time and patience.

Please, visit the following site that was developed by someone to address the ramifications that family members face when one of their own is a criminal and they were used and abused by that criminal. www.familyarrested.

Above all, seek a trauma specialist for your own well being and recovery. You are precious and priceless in this vast Universe, and that rat-shit predator does not have to define who you are or diminish your value in this world.

My most sincere blessings of courage and healing to you. Tweet