Need some help on this one, please.
Hey all, well i have got myself into quite a perdicament. I recently moved to Florida, and i was anxious to meet new people, and make friends. I ended up meeting this great woman. I mean i think shes perfect in every way. Shes gorgeous, funny, and knows how to have an all around good time. When she gave me her phone number i was totally stoked. Well anyways i called her up, made plans, then she calls me and tells me that somethings come up. So i figured ok, cool no problem. So we talk a few more times on the phone, and i try to make plans again. This time i get a "maybe", and that she has to get back to me. So when she gets back to me toward the end of the day, she says shes gotta do something with the family. So again.. i figure ok no biggy. Anyways the third time, i get the same "maybe". So this time i was like.. whats up? Why won't you go out? Did i do something? At this point i told her straight up that i thought she was really awesome, and that liked her a lot. Well this is where the wierdness comes in.
So she proceeds to tell me that she has a problem with relationships... they scare her it seems. She says that shes had very few relationships, which i found hard to believe, because i thought she was amazing. But anyways she said her past relationships have been bad, and then she also tied in that her father left her when she was young, in a bitter divorce or seperation of some kind. The way she was talking to me made it sound like she believed that I was to good for her, which totally bewildered me. Saying things such as "Oh, there are plenty of other girls that want you i bet, why are you waisting your time with me." She also went into stuff such as, she thinks she is ugly, ect. Which i promptly reassured her was false.
I mean she was the one to give me her phone number, i didn't even ask for it, so i find it hard to believe that she can just drop it like this. I really like this woman, and i want to be able to help her through this fear type of relationships. But she says that i can't help. Which might be true, but i figured if anyone could give me some insight on this problem, i might to be able to help her in some way. Like i really want this to work out, just because i personally think she is one of the coolest women i have ever met, even with these problems. So if anyone could please give me a hand, or any pointers in this matter, it would be greatly appreciated. Thanks a lot.
Shaaw