Re: Raped married man

By your description of yourself, it seems you are, or were, a man with much pride. Perhaps a little arrogant. Not that there's anything wrong with that. It's part of the package of being a guy right? So part of your problem is probably that you feel like less of a man. This is what I'll mostly focus on in this post.

It sounds like one of the most horrific experiences you could have. An experience you thought you'd never have, but you did, and hopefully you've come to accept that by now. Here are some thoughts. Like the other poster said, it's not about sex in any way. It's about crime and violence. I'd like to add to that, it's not about YOU either. You were just in the wrong place at the wrong time. You were the unfortunate one on that day. Maybe if you were less drunk you could have handled the situation better. I don't say this to make you feel bad about being drunk, but to say that you were in a vulnerable state. These kids are probably quite experienced in ganging up on people like this. All I'm saying is, don't kick yourself. You're still a man. Being a man doesn't make you invincible. Sometimes this shit happens. It was not a fair battle. They don't deserve any pride over this.

Try not to let the darkness take over the good in your life. Things may never be quite the same, but they'll be fine, and you've got move on and get on with your life as you would before. Be a bit more careful of course. There's no shame in avoiding gangs, or running away.

I haven't been through this, but my advice is this. Don't over complicate this. Accept it, feel no shame and forget about it. It will take time to forget, but you can do it. You the man! Tweet