Re: betrayal
OMG!! They are both so messed up! You must be really pretty and emotionally hungry to make them both want to kill themselves. And with a user name like "burning desire" it sounds like you are really horny all the time. I am more into european women myself, but your best bet is getting away from both of them and finding some great awesome guy, like me for example. If you can cook authentic cultural cuisine i will forgive you for your cheating ways! Also- I am not a racist or anything but I have found guys from your area to be quite bad with women.
But, be careful because people actually do commit suicide from these things and it will change you for the rest of your life and possibly damage your sexuality forever. You don't want this. You also don't need either of them, to be honest, unless of course a part of you feels so empty and hungry that you actually crave extreme addiction from needy men.
The best thing you can do is first find out why you are with these guys. Not all guys are messed up like this. Then heal that part of yourself. Also, find out why in the world they would threaten to kill themselves for whatever reason, maybe they are looking for something that you can't actually provide... and be compassionate and helpful but not affected by their threats. You have to learn love without attachment- if it is real it carries a powerful transformative healing even if you have to say goodbye to someone.