Re: Abuse at Home

Hulky52, it is not my intention to come off harsh, here, but you posted under "Abused Husbands."  Your original post referenced your family's efforts to control/monitor your internet activities and a remark that you were living in a "bad marriage."  Your post, above, made a vague reference to a personal addiction.  Without sounding harsh, I don't read anything that relates to domestic abuse.  What, specifically, are you considering to be domestic abuse or domestic violence?

Often, when friends and family members have tolerated a loved one's addictive behaviors and all of the baggage that goes with it, they often come off as seeming to be abusive.  What I read above doesn't discuss abuse, at all - it's speaking to boundaries and limits that your family members have set forth.  Although addictions are referred to as a "disease," they are (IMHO) misnomered and should be pronounced as dis - ease.  When we talk about diseases as defined by medicine, they are conditions that can be treated and cured, or managed.  When we are talking about an addiction, that management must come from the person with the addiction:  no pill, therapy, support group, or promise is going to heal and cure any addiction.  Successful management of any addiction comes from self-examination, accountability, and hard work to overcome and manage the triggers, etc......  Any addiction is not (and, cannot be) something that friends and family members should simply accept and ignore because they suffer tremendous collateral damage, as well.

If I have completely misread your posts, my sincere apologies.