does being violated mean you should give up? no.

And yes, it is easy for me to say that. One doesn't have to walk in your shoes to know how to offer the perfect advice available. And at no charge I might add. Everybody walking the face of the earth has had something, SOMETHING go horribly wrong and lived to tell the tale. You aren't the first, you won't be the last. Rape, divorce, physical beatings, alcoholism, drug addiction, loss of loved ones unexpectedly, accidents, military trauma...the list never ends, sweetheart. My belief is that no one's life is perfect, nobody gets a free ride all the way through, and if you get that fact into your brain from day one....life is so much easier to live and enjoy.

You were raped...so were 2500 other women somewhere in the world that day. Does that make it acceptable? Hell no! I'm putting it all in perspective. You've got only so many good years to live. The faster you accept what happened, cleanse the mind of the act, march forward with conviction and vigor that you will not let that event in your life dictate the future...well...you'll instantly become the desire of great guys, guys that will love and cherish you. And friends, friends that you had and have yet to meet will be attracted to the "new you". This is how it's done.

And once you have the clear, new mindset that you want guys to approach you, you want great sex with the right guy, you want loving relationships, you want friends around and calling you asking "What are you doing tonight"? That's when life gets back to being good...and worth forgetting the bad. You now know how to make it happen. My question for you is...you gonna sit at a computer every night and stew about what happened months ago or are you going out with that guy in the next cubicle that keeps asking you to the movies? Well? How about those friends that still try to get you out on Friday nights...don't you think it's high time you put on your best killer-looking jeans and top and do it? I think so...but, that's only me...