Here's the deal...you've got a very, very, very selfish guy there. You chose him! This is what you got. I'm a guy and I know thousands of guys and thousands of women, I'm here to tell you straight up...if a normal guy gets one of the two, blow job or straight vaginal sex...blow job wins every time. That's just a fact of penile pleasure principles. He's got you trained to suck on command and you oblige. Haven't you had enough of going down on your knees daily for this selfish bastard? Yeah, I think so. Aren't those knees aching about now? You talk to him about normal relations and he tells you to get back down there and finish him off. This is no way to treat a lady. You know enough is enough, now get up off those knees and start taking control of your life. This guy of yours doesn't respect you and it's time you started respecting yourself.