well, you've made an adult decision about an adult problem.

You thought it through, weighed the pros and cons...and made a solid decision in favor of keeping the sexless marriage. Nobody can say you haven't vented it out loud! That's for sure. I also agree with the premise that he didn't want sex before, now with the "bad back" he still doesn't want it, and you correctly can count on limited sex for the entire duration of this marriage. But in return you get a "good guy" whom you love and share many pleasant times with. I get that. I can't find too much fault with you playing with yourself, spanking the monkey frequently at the sight of Team 6 hotties in short shorts while the hubby is massaging Vick's Vapor Rub into his lower vertebra. This is your life and how you wish to live it. Many a successful marriage has lasted and been worthwile with similar characteristics as yours...just keep a spare pack of batteries handy and you'll be just fine... Tweet