Do you believe that people that really try to show the type of Agapa love tend to get hurt more as they are around more people that are focused on a Phileo love and even Eros love?
A couple years ago (around 3 years), My church Bible study showed a wonderful video explaining this type of love to people. It was by Rob Bell and it was called "The Flame" I think. It was really wonderful. I am sure they have a Youtube video. Check it out as it is very informative and insightful. At least it was for me.