More rhetoric
I am really tired of hearing this 'not about sex' repeated. Sexual acts are sexual, they ARE about sex, in some regard.
It may be primarily about other issues. It may be primarily about them the majority of the time.
Perhaps it is never primarily about sex, or perhaps those instances where it is primarily about sex are a minority of the cases.
But generalizations like 'it is never about sex' are unsupported and few believe them.
About the only way you could justify this is to say something like 'sex is about power' which is something I could actually agree with for the majority of even CONSENSUAL cases.
But to be about power because sex is about power still means it's about sex.
That's sort of like saying "boxing isn't about punching, it's about injuring." It sounds ridiculous. What sets apart rape from other crimes that involve illegally and immorally exerting force and domination over others is that rape involves sex, so it IS about sex.