What the.........!!!!

This so-called "advise" by lightstream is every bit as angry and abusive as the man this poor original poster is hooked up with. One exception, it is vastly more hypocritical by chastising a woman who is sufffering and confused by calling her judgmental.

Now, to the original poster; forget any analysis or psychobabble honey, your instincts are sharp, pay attention to them.  There's much that can be said about your situation, however to sum it all up, you already received the best answer above by someone and I will just repeat it for you.

Don't waste your precious time doing too much thinking sweetie, you're worth far more than this creep.

Simply: Ditch the Pig!!!!!!!!