my mom and her Alziemers

greetings Sarah

Been reading the your forum, just no time to post. So sad about your cats.

My mom is getting worse, she has just in the last few days lost control of her bladder and wets herself, so she is wearing depends. I am in her home, but afraid it is to late,
I have sisters ( and just about the whole town) who are totally against everything I do, only beleive in medicall and drugs , they are very cold toward there mother and are going to force me one way or another to put her in a nursing home I am afraid. I am tired Sarah of fighting them and everyone else about the importance of diet and how bad drugs are. Being a caretaker is not easy and if I can't keep my mom on a consitent diet of fruits and veggies , because everyone else around her is shoving garbage in her what chance do I have, anyway.

I am being blamed for her progressive decline because I have kept her off the Alzhiemer drugs, the antidepressents, the sleeping pills, the anti anciety pills and the who knows how many after that to counter the effects of the previous ,mentioned.

I should have been in her home with her sooner than this, I was here alot though everyday and night. How do you know what is best for her, would she be better in a nursing home with twentyfour hr care where there are nurses and other people to socialize with. Can I handle the stress of caring for her at home without loosing it? What if something happens to her at home and I get the blame?

I am afraid if I continue to keep her away from doctors I will go to jail for negelet, I have allreay been turn into the department of human services by one of her nieghbors because she wondered into thier house while I was gone.

Sorry to lay so much out on ya Sarah, cause I know you have your woes also as everyone does.

dsr