Re: emotional/psychological abuse and games

Oh my gosh, it sounds like you're dating my ex! He would constantly crack jokes about my weight. For example, "hey fatty." I'm actually quite petite. And get this, he also bought me a teddy bear which he would accuse me of having affairs with. He was so controlling. At first, I was in denial then it became unbearable. I couldn't stand the anger he would express towards me for not answering my phone or telling him where I was going. When I would tell him this, he would turn it all around, making it all seem as if I were the "crazy" one. Like you, I kept playing the thoughts over in my head, knowing something wasn't right. When I would feel as though I finally had enough, I would lash back which inevitably led to being told that I would never find anyone else that would put up with me. I would then insist that I didn't deserve to be treated so badly, and as a result, he would threaten to take his life or tell me "I can't live without you."

The relationship was ended mutually after a fight that completely tore us apart. I thought we would work things out. It took me awhile but eventually, I realized the relationship was just no good for me or my ex.

I know it sucks to hear this, but you're here asking for help. The best help is within you which is what led you here. The guy you are with is insecure with himself without a doubt. No matter what you do to please him, he is obviously not pleased with himself. Therefore, your efforts have little effect on the way he treats you because he's treating you badly out of digust with himself. It's not YOU, it's him. If you stay with him, you are just letting him continue to treat you badly. The sooner you end the relationship, the faster you can heal. Tweet