OMG, this guy is an accident waiting to happen. Classic behavior, and then some too. Usually they don't show the really creepy side until you are married.

I would drop this guy as fast as possible. I say this but have to ask if you have ever felt fear of your life with him? Has he ever threatened you?

How long have you been with him?

If you took the time to post this on the forum you did, I think you know the real answer to all of this. What keeps you with him?

I'm praying for you.

come on...you know this is so messed up. this guy is a control freak without a doubt. i am not going to psychoanalyze everything this guy has done because i dont think you need me to. by the way you write i know you are smart and i dont want to explain things to you that you already know. you know this guy aint right...you know these games are stemmed from some deep rooted psychological problems that he has...this thing about controlling your sexual pleasure is the most disturbing because the way someone gets to be that way is not nice and if this guy is the type of guy i think he is then all i can say is you need to end this now. this is the type of guy that you wont get rid of for years and years unless you end it and never ever ever answer any of his calls, emails, or texts. get away now.

Get rid of this psycho.

He does not sound like a loving, affectionate, dedicated or honorable lover.

If you had the money, I bet some surveillance on this fella would turn up some pretty ugly things.

Get rid of this psycho.

He does not sound like a loving, affectionate, dedicated or honorable lover.

If you had the money to pay for a private eye, I bet some surveillance on this fella would turn up some pretty ugly things.

Oh my gosh, it sounds like you're dating my ex! He would constantly crack jokes about my weight. For example, "hey fatty." I'm actually quite petite. And get this, he also bought me a teddy bear which he would accuse me of having affairs with. He was so controlling. At first, I was in denial then it became unbearable. I couldn't stand the anger he would express towards me for not answering my phone or telling him where I was going. When I would tell him this, he would turn it all around, making it all seem as if I were the "crazy" one. Like you, I kept playing the thoughts over in my head, knowing something wasn't right. When I would feel as though I finally had enough, I would lash back which inevitably led to being told that I would never find anyone else that would put up with me. I would then insist that I didn't deserve to be treated so badly, and as a result, he would threaten to take his life or tell me "I can't live without you."

The relationship was ended mutually after a fight that completely tore us apart. I thought we would work things out. It took me awhile but eventually, I realized the relationship was just no good for me or my ex.

I know it sucks to hear this, but you're here asking for help. The best help is within you which is what led you here. The guy you are with is insecure with himself without a doubt. No matter what you do to please him, he is obviously not pleased with himself. Therefore, your efforts have little effect on the way he treats you because he's treating you badly out of digust with himself. It's not YOU, it's him. If you stay with him, you are just letting him continue to treat you badly. The sooner you end the relationship, the faster you can heal.