come on...you know this is so messed up. this guy is a control freak without a doubt. i am not going to psychoanalyze everything this guy has done because i dont think you need me to. by the way you write i know you are smart and i dont want to explain things to you that you already know. you know this guy aint right...you know these games are stemmed from some deep rooted psychological problems that he has...this thing about controlling your sexual pleasure is the most disturbing because the way someone gets to be that way is not nice and if this guy is the type of guy i think he is then all i can say is you need to end this now. this is the type of guy that you wont get rid of for years and years unless you end it and never ever ever answer any of his calls, emails, or texts. get away now.