Re: balancing your negative aspects...

Gracey, yes I know what you mean...but there is always something positive even within the most 'negative' and challenging looking aspect.

One thing you and your friends could do is look at the aspect say, Mars square Saturn and instead of focusing on the challenging aspect you could see how, if you're aware, you can turn that challenge into something you can use positively - just take the positive characteristics of Mars and synthesize them with the postiive characteristics of Mars.

Instead of: Feeling stuck, limited, frustrated and blocked in your actions (mars square saturn) you can become aware and choose to use that square as dynamic tension to actually get something done that requires focus and discipline...See what I mean?

Also...what I do when I see a challenging aspect in someone's chart...is look for a super positive transit that is coming up - usually one is! I usually look for outer planet transits because that means the energy is serious - because it lasts for 1 to 2 years and people actually have a chance to transform (pluto), radically alter, free (uranus) or spiritualize (neptune) their challenging aspects. Transits are an AMAZING energy to ride to help with all those life lessons!

Remember that we chose those life lessons (challenges) and so with awareness we are meant to grow and change and transform into the amazing beings that we are! Nothing is stagnant...change is the only constant! Ride the wave of change...no one has to stay in the same old difficult position...

Hope that helps some!

love Tracey