My lack of success with EMDR?

Some of you have written some excellent replies to Steve, who has not slept in weeks(good luck, Steve:)). I have noted some of the suggestions and links. My question regards EMDR. I tried that with a friend I knew who had a pHd in psychology. He uses this in his practice. I did this with him and practiced it on my own many times. To be honest I did not find much benefit from it and lost interest in it. My friend tried to get me to simply spend more time doing it. For example he related a story of a client who had to spend many hours each day tapping and doing the work, over and over, on the same problem, before finally receiving incredible results. I either don't have that kind of patience or just did not "believe" in the work's effectiveness.
I do know that many people say the EMDR has helped them a lot. I have various issues, such as fears and anxieties, depression(though this goes away if I manage to stick to the Budwig diet)loneliness and health problems. But I did not find any relief or change when I did the tapping on pressure points along with the eye movement, whether by myself or in guided sessions. Now I will clarify that I did "feel" better or notice some shift at the actual moments of doing it; but I felt those benefits were short-lived and sometimes went away immmediately after the session.
I am not trying to dissent or criticize, but only to see if anyone has similar experiences or suggestions or thoughts as to how I might find benefit from this. The main thing is that I need to find a way to improve my pycho-emotional health, as I am troubled by compulsive eating and find it extremely difficult to meet my own social needs. When I am with someone in a connecting way I feel good, but I find it hard to meet people or make friends in my current state. I have gained fifty pounds and don't feel that women are interested, for example. I'm a 53 yr. old guy.
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