how can I release this one?

In these late days I've been working on moving up on the emotional scale regarding my (possibly finished) relation of 7 years with my boyfriend (we are actually married but prefer to call each other boyfriend and girlfriend), beginning with the last step and writing whatever came to my mind that was related to the specific emotions of that step, one step a day, like Greg explained in the Abe forum (the link given some days ago by Ynaig). I've been adding to this a tantric meditation that has always been very efficient in the past to release negative emotions. (If you are interested I can explain it to you, it is very powerful, but later with this.)
This accompanied with some practical measures (I've gone to live on my own, but we still see a lot as friends) has made me feel really relieved, or even better I've felt empowered and optimistic finally, after a long period of feeling bad.

But yesterday I bumped into something unexpected. I was at the step of "jealousy", and I even considered skipping it, and head fast towards "anger", on which I for sure had a lot to say. But then I became conscious of a hurt that seems unusually persistent, of which I was not really unaware before, but I didn't think it was so strong. I tried to release it in every way I know of, but nothing, it doesn't go.
Maybe you can help me?

A bit of background.
Thing is, my boyfriend is a really special person. First of all he is very very handsome, when we are in Milan he is asked continuously if he's a model or wants to be model. People stop him in the street asking to be taken a picture with him. And he has also a very particular and talented personality and a very deep spirituality, started precociously at age 16. People think he's some sort of an angel. When I met him the first time it is because a common friend called me and said: hey, do you want to meet an extraterrestrial?
At the beginning of our story I felt especially inadequate on the spiritual level. Although pretty, I sure wasn't as beautiful as him, but at the beginning I didn't care too much, I also dressed in a cool way I thought, so it didn't feel too bad. I was also flattered to be with someone so popular.
Then in time I've grown a lot spiritually, but physically I went out of balance, and I couldn't wear anymore my cool clothes, and I felt worse and worse about myself.

I feel about us two that we are pretty much the same caliber (an old dream I had before I met him was using this word), I really feel we are like twins. But it doesn't show! (damn!) So a typical thing that happens is that, say he meets someone new, and begins to talk and so on, they normally get totally fascinated and curious, maybe he's even talked of me so they have began to fantasize, then I come and ...they are disappointed. Her??? I can see it. I'm not paranoid or something, it's clear.
When they get to know me better, I think they like me. Maybe they think that I must be exceptionally brilliant if a guy so beautiful in every sense of the word has chosen me. Some end up even liking me better than him, also because Erik can be suddenly acting weird or rude or heavy, he's not at ease with people. But that doesn't cover up for the initial hurt. I think I declined physically also as a consequence of this constant hurt, making it every day more true.
Consider that since we first met, we've been practically unseparable, and feeling very much like one, so my heart was wide open and the identification very deep. So all the feelings concerning my life with him have a kind of absolute flavor, as that was the only reality I've lived in during these years.

So, that's it: although not in any way competitive with Erik, I am jealous of his beauty and physical charisma. As stupid as it might sound, it hurts awfully. Maybe because it feels like that I have to "work" to get the love I want besides the one of Erik, and it feels so unjust and untrue. Now I'm even afraid that if I separate from Erik no-one will ever notice me, they'll walk on by, they won't see me and I'll progressively disappear.

What d'ya think?
Obviously the contrast is showing me my desire to have (back, and more than before) some physical charisma. And that's a good thing to know. But until I release the hurt I'll never be able to allow that. How can I address it? reframe it? rephrase it? energetical work (which is my usual approach) didn't move anything.