little disappointed in my husband

He went into the hospital because of an abcessed tooth and still doesn't take care of himself. Lucky thing I had insurance otherwise the bill would have been in the thousands. I find myself letting little insults and jabs about him slip in public more often. Yesterday I did it and felt immediately guilty about it. He spent his whole life with people laughing at him and here I am beginning to do the same. I support him and support him in his challenges with Depression but I have a hard time getting him to take care of himself in the most basic ways. Help. Need advice!