Re: Please Help Me Help My Daughter and grandson!!

EXACTLY, Molly! Work through the child! That was the only thing that made me step back and look at my situation - I saw my children deteriorating in front of me and, denial be damned, I had to face the fact that I was in an abusive relationship.

Bubbles, I am in 100% agreement with Molly that you have the opportunity to facilitate intervention, here. But, an "intervention" must be handled very, very carefully and by trained counselors and volunteers and should never be attempted on a whim. It can take weeks to prepare for such an event and I would suggest that you need to get moving on this today, if you're interested in being a part of her intervention.

One of the most difficult things during abuse intervention that you'll have to deal with will be your daughter's denial. Believe me - she KNOWS what you know (and, then some) and she will be compelled to defend this Thing that fathered her child. She may blame YOU, she may try to point out YOUR mistakes, and it can get quite ugly - hence, the need for trained individuals. You cannot allow yourself to take anything said through denial as a personal attack - it's a defense mechanism and that's the bottom line.

Again, if you're intending to do this, Bubbles, get on it right away. You'll be doing some counseling in preparation and the whole thing will have to be set up very carefully. All of that takes some time and time is something that abuse victims don't have a lot of.

Keep posting back, Bubbles, and there will be many, many folks at Curezone who will be willing to support you through this difficult patch.

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