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Trystan,
Hi, as you can tell by my screen name have 8 children. (scarey huh?) you have quiet a situation on your hands. Poor little guy...his little life is in turmoil.you are trying the right things..First....get the Sugar out of the house!!!If his little body isn't well....his rational will be off.fin one thing at a time he will eat...even if it is a granola bar with c.chips that he thinks is candy...Try some kid friendly soups.It may do him well to get a little hungry...hungry enough--I mean all day till dinner time so that he will actually eat a good portion of something healthy.
Try little colored apple sauces-- make him think it cute..this will all be trial and error take him to the store with you-let him pick a thing or two---no candy...maybe try frosted cheerios or fruitloops...while they are not the best with added Sugar it will be an improvement over candy.
Take the games Away.......get him legos and blocks and then PLAY THEM WITH HIM!!!
I KNOW THIS IS SO HARD WHEN YOU ARE TIRED AND NEED DOWN TIME......BUT BUT BUT.....YOU MAY BE HIS ONLY HOPE..IT WILL BE VERY HARD-- A SACRIFICE OF YOUR LIFE,AS HE IS NOT YOUR BABY..And if you are exhausted give him a nice warm bath and find his favorite video, pull the little guy in your lap and snuggle him up build a bond with him,it may take weeks or even months but assure him he is safe and secure and put stability in his life.
THE REASON HE HUGS YOU ANS IS AFFECTIONATE IS BECAUSE YOU ARE A SECURITY. YOU GIVE HIM BOUNDS AND THIS MAKES HIM SECURE...I HATE TO DO IT ALSO... BUT IF HE NEEDs DISCIPLINE... GIVE IT.. AND YES I MEAN A SPANKING! BUT ABSOLUTELY NOT WHEN YOU ARE MAD-if you are mad do not spank, that will teach him to hit when you are mad.It has to be about enforcing boundaries (and only on the bottom and not many licks he is only 4.)Tell him you are sad with him not mad...keep your tone loving..even if you are fuming. NEVER LET IT TURN IN TO YOU TELLING HIM SOMETHING MORE THAN ONCE..MAYBE TWICE.You need to be the one in control... it will make him feel secure and safe.Lets face it things do not make child happy....love does.It seems the little guy has had to many changes he needs consistency and stability.He wants control because his life is out of control by the adults who are suppose to secure his enviroment.I hurt for you both.but this CAN be remedied. But it will take work, love and sacrifice make sure you are in this for the long haul.He does not need people he grows to love yanked from his little world..Hope I don't sound mean....I just care... children are precious gifts even when the seem demonic.. Tweet