It don't matter -

It doesn't matter. Its the ultimate conundrum of nature vs nurture. Nature wins always, hands down.

Case in point. I am adopted. I could not be more different from my Mom and Dad. I don't agree with their politics, their religious ideals, their social ideals, how they treat their dogs.....you name it. And I certainly did not agree with how they raised me. What they did give me was my social status in life. Priviledged child with good education and neighboring peers headed in the same direction.

My best friend (who is now a doctor) made me do all the bad things I got into trouble with in H.S. I never really drank until I met her. I never smoked pot until I met her. I never dropped acid until we added our other best friend into the mix. I was raised to be a god fearing, republican, sexually repressed, highly productive and educated young woman. Little help...I became a hippie, drug taking, sexually active, socially rebellious, agnostic, feminist, artist. And while I got a good education, as did my crazy girlfriends and am now a member of the PTA, no drugs, moderate drinker, corporate worker, good mother and wife type person, I am still completely different from Mom and Dad. By the way....Mom is a psychologist LOL!!

I have a psychology degree. I wanted to be a child psychologist but became a teacher instead. Years later I read a book that knocked my socks off. Judith Rich Harris. Brilliant. Here is an article about her book.


http://www.washingtonmonthly.com/books/1998/9811.williams.parents.html


Well, the nice thing about this is it takes the guilt out of the equation LOL!! But then again, my son is genetically linked to me, poor kid.

Molly




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