Don't beg, it's extremely unattractive. I see no reason for you not to bring the subject up. If your relationship is good then it should be able to stand the test of talking about intimacy. You might be pleasantly surprised, and she may be wanting to talk about it as well. Isnt it better to have things out in the open and know once and for all where you stand.

And as for you comment about sex just happening. Yes it does a lot of the time, and most of the time it shouldn't have. I think if more people discussed it before just jumping into bed together it would save a hell of a lot of grief.

Im going to give you my advice on what works.

I know all of these hardcore curezone femenist ladies are going to flame me for saying this like they have before but Im just going to tell you a surefire way to get layed and make girls like you more.

Being the nice guy never works. I spent many many years playing that part and I made many great friends. However I ended up counseling these girls in what to do to a guy in order to get him to like her and helping her with her problems as opposed to actually being that love interest.

You need to look at what the guys are like that all the ladies like, they all have something in common. They are %¤#&!§-s. Girls like %¤#&!§-s. There are going to be a bunch of girls responding to this now saying how they dont like %¤#&!§-s but you CAN NOT listen to them. They always deny it, but its true. If you want to make these ladies swoon over you, you need to not treat them so nice.

Here's what it will do for you. It will show them that you are an alpha male and appeal to their instinctual side and it will make them think that you may not like them so it will be a game to them to get you to like them.

You may be thinking "wont this only help me get one night stands? what about the relationship that I want" and this is a legitimate concer. This method will help you get somebody interested in you and want you really bad so you will have the ability to get into a relationship with them if you want to. And the good news is, after they start liking you, you can go back to being your nice self again and not have to put on a front forever.

The trick is being unnavailable to them. When you are always calling them, and always available to hang out, and always giving them attention, then the hunt is gone and they have already gotten you where they want and its over, you are no longer their love interest. You need to act like you dont really have time for them andyou are seeing other women and that you are not really interested in a relationship because you are emotionally pre-occupied with other women. This will drive them NUTS and it will be a game for them that they will be willing to fight to the death to win. Girls are very competative with eachother.

So this girl you are seeing now who doesnt want to have sex with you, start telling her how you really feel. Tell her she pisses you off because she leads you on and then dont call her anymore, wait for her to call you. They will always call back. Dont give in and call her first.

This has worked for me. I am in a relationship with the most amazing girl in the world now. She is a perfect 10, no debate about it. I treat her like a princess and she makes me the happiest guy in the world. We have been together for over a year now and its always getting better.

The funny thing is that she didnt really like me at first. I just started talking to her and keeping in touch with her and stuff and after 3 months I started to become emotionally unnavailable because i was seeing this other girl who i was telling her that I was in love with and it made her go crazy. Thats when she started getting REALLY aggressive with trying to make me hers. Hey it worked out!

I hope this helps

It seems to me that you haven't been with the RIGHT women yet ... in either circumstance (one nighters included.)

when one is 'desperate' one projects this subtle energy and is returned more of like or affirming that you are 'desperate'. Women or anyone can feel this to varying extents and the energy that may go along with this desperation is one of wanting to dominate conquer or control.

Not having the right knowledge that broadcasting "desperate" brings affirmation of such, one might instead stop seeking and 'find' that when one stops broadcasting things such as "I am desperate' 'I am seeking' one affirms that he is satisfied in all that he has and paradoxically your needs are fulfilled without negation of mind and actions.

I stopped seeking "In the ways the world seeks" years ago. and I have ALL that I need, even more than what I previously sought. Things just seem to happen when I am detached from any result whatsoever. A word to the wise is sufficient.

Aye

Maintain your "nice guy" level - there's no reason to alter yourself in the pursuit of sexual gratification. Focusing ON your Self (your Life's Spark) will not only give you confidence, but it will help you to develop an understanding OF your Self - what your goals are, what you feel are attributes, developing emotional well-being, developing skills of communication, etc.

The woman that you're dating may well appreciate your speaking up about your desires. Yeah, things can get hot and heavy, but sometimes it is much more meaningful to hear someone say, "You know, I feel so close to you and I'd like to take our intimacy one step further. What about you?"

One respondant to your concerns suggested that women (in general, I assume) are attracted to guys who are demeaning, mean, and degrading. Well, given what the visual and audio medias crank out, today, young girls are TAUGHT (early on) that they are b*tches, hoe's, and objects to be used and cast aside and they play into those expectations. They are living up to the current stereotype.

And, no - I'm not a hardcore feminist to whomever felt that Curezone women are. I am a woman who married one of those "bad guys" and ended up as a shell of a person, beaten, battered, emotionally and financially bankrupt. It's us women who are older and more experienced who recognize that we do NOT need a "bad guy" to have good sex with. We've earned our stripes and we do not have to accept abusive treatment to secure a man. We understand that people can (and, DO) have sex with anyONE or anyTHING and achieving an orgasm does not, in any way shape or form, indicate intimacy.

So, go on, Jacob - maintain your gentle Self and never change for the benefit of someone else. If this gal is the one for you, then it will work itself out. If not, there is someone out there just for you in a world of billions of people!

Best wishes to you!