When you become the aggressor they usually tend to back off because they think you have gone off the deep end. Once my X who loved to lecture me for hours, was on an all nighter. I just couldn't stand it anymore so I started screeming as loudly as I could. I screems for quite a long time. You should have seen the look on his face. He didn't talk to me for 3 days. LOL!

Thanks Molly for those stories. I have to admit that I busted out laughing when you "projectile vomitted" on your ex... I couldn't help it that was just tooo funny. Thanks.

Hi Rendezvous, I did think about asking the YWCA for help getting the stuff into my new place, but moving it out of here is the thing since they're three hours away it may be a little problem. But I think I know a couple of guys I could ask to help me load it up. It's funny because the heavier things are the most valuable (my mothers) everything else I could care less, but I think God will help me to work it out.

You know I was thinking earlier too, that he probably won't even miss me when I'm gone in a love way, but more of he'll miss that I'm not here to help with bills, or for him to vent on is probably more of what he'll miss. I'm very anxious and ready to get this going as quickly as possible. This last week for me, everything has just come to a head for me, and I can no longer sit with my head down and take his crap. It's been to long. I've wanted this for a very long time, but never actually did anything. I think each and everyone of you helped me to get the courage to take that next step and do whats best for me. I thank God for this board and people like you that listened to me vent and cry. I needed to get that out.

Now, this is how evil this man really is. I was thinking about this earlier today, as I have been reliving all of the bad things that has happened during this relationship, but tried to put them in the back of my mind and forget about.

After my mother passed away, bf was very distant and somewhat cold to me. I could not figure out why he wasn't there for me. He was not emotionally or physically comforting, and it hurt me so bad. Because I was hurting deeply and he was causing so much more stress and hurt than I was in. So on the day of the funeral I practically had to beg him to come with me. We had had an argument the night before, and so the next day he was practically refusing to go! Finally he says that he will go. On the ride to my mothers home, he didn't say a word. When I get there he goes off in another direction and basically ignores me the rest of the day. After the funeral all of the family had dinner at the church. He went and sat in the car! So, finally I get home. I was so stressed out not only due to the funeral, but because my bf had not been there at all to help me through any of it. So we end up getting into an argument, about what I can't remember but he ends up leaving me alone! I was so upset and not wanting to be alone I did something pretty dumb, I started pushing over furniture, I knocked the couch over and the dining room table. I wasn't thinking straight and I just had to get my frustration out. So he finally gets home about 1am, and I'm on the couch crying. He takes one look at the living and without me knowing called the police! The next thing I know a police officer comes into the living room where I am at, and says "what happened here? Looks like a tornado came throug!" So, I just shrugged my shoulders. So the officer goes into the kitchen and looks on the table and sees the programs of my mothers funeral, and goes outside to speak with my bf. I don't know what was said, but the officer didn't come back... So, this is one of the prime examples of how heartless this person (don't want to call him a man) is. Right after I buried my mother he calls the police on me for something so insignificant, what kind of person would do that I was in know way a threat to him and he knew it, his excuse was he didn't want me tearing up all of his stuff!!!!!

How I stayed with him after that I don't know....
Wow, that got long. Thanks for listening

Ha Ha...you go Kitty. They're not that scary when there is a mob of angry women standing there. Then, you could always barf on them.

LOL, I love it!! I wish, he needs someone to kick his ass good too! That's another reason why he treated my however he wanted because he knows that I don't have anyone to call, and beat his ass.

But let someone treat his sister wrong, he's going crazy. It's crazy how he can get so upset about other men who treat women badly, but can't see himself as being the same, no worse than they are.

Thank you so much ladies, you don't know how much it means to have this connection with someone, and it is helping me so much :) (((HUGS)))