What you say makes a lot of sense and by coincidence is along the same lines of the conclusion I have come to also!

I have had 2 failed marriages and several serious relationships go sour because of my actions.

It has been 3 years since I have been in a relationship and I have decided that until I can feel good about myself and who I am it wouldn't be fair to my partner.

My ex found a guy the day she filed for divorce and he moved into my old house a month later - before we were even divorced! I am still very bitter about. She loves to rub it in how wonderful he is and how I never "got it".

When I am healthy again physically, mentally and spiritually I believe the universe will send someone my way.

Later...

Doug

Maybe people have always been just as incompatible after so many years of being together, but today people are smart enough to make changes to make themselves happy. Maybe today people just refuse to live the rest of their lives being miserable staying married because they were forced to stay together because the church said to stay married, or society claimed divorcees to be damaged goods, or the worst excuse - staying married for the children, and having those children grow up in a bad environment where they have unhappy parents and a false environment and staged family structure. Relationships change, people change.

Would you blame a woman because she was "sick" - malnourished and parasitic, and was left by her husband because of it? What if the wife wasn't providing enough sex for the man? Heck, technology today provides enough porno on the internet to make a wife obsolete... right? Just like men no longer are relied on for heating the house or cranking-starting the car?

Blaming men for nearly all divorces is just not fair. Women today now have nearly all of the opportunities as men, but you then imply that women share no responsibility for the marriage's success? All the benefits but none of the responsibility? Maybe men look malnourished because they are working their asses off to provide for their families. And when they don't "cherish" the wife (you mean worship?) enough, the wife is cheered on to leave him, take his house (like precis above) and wipe him out financially. Meanwhile if a man leaves his wife for the same reasoning, he is labeled a jerk and the wife a victim. Equal opportunity or only equal when convenient? I think there are just as many "screwed up" women out there than there are men. It's just more politically correct to blame the man. Women can be brutal just as much as men, they just have a different way of doing it.

Do you have a reference for the "99% of all violent crime according to the dept of justice is committed by males against females"?






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Maybe people have always been just as incompatible, today people are smart enough to make changes to make themselves happy. Maybe today people just refuse to live the rest of their lives being miserable staying married because they were forced to stay together because the church said to stay married, or society claimed divorcees to be damaged goods, or the worst excuse - staying married for the children, and having those children grow up in a bad environment where they have unhappy parents and a false environment and staged family structure. Relationships change, people change.

Blaming men for nearly all divorces is just not fair. Women today now have nearly all of the opportunities as men, but you then imply that women share no responsibility for the marriage's success? All the benefits but none of the responsibility? Maybe men look malnourished because they are working their asses off to provide for their families? And when they don't "cherish" the wife (you mean worship?) enough, the wife is cheered on to leave him, take his house (like precis above) and wipe him out financially. Meanwhile if a man leaves his wife for the same reasoning, he is labeled a jerk and the wife a victim. Equal opportunity or only equal when convenient?

Do you have a reference for the "99% of all violent crime according to the dept of justice is committed by males against females"?

Sexist and demeaning post. Blaming and impugning men for your relationship failures and the differences between the sexes won't help. Perhaps the angry, I don't need men attitude has a lot to do with the way things are.

You are a bit defeatist there, although, some of the points you mention make sense. But there are not only unhealthy men or abusive men, and all the women are perfect.

Maybe many people marry for the bad reasons that aren't realistic enough, they want the fairy tale, and they believe in a marriage with never any problem to resolve and don't tolerate anything from their partner but never come to terms with their own flaws, I would say that's the main reason why the divorce rate is so high, illusions.

The dissolution of a marriage is a legal act that may not always coincide with a couple's emotional tearing asunder. Divorce is typically a painful process for all concerned. While it can take adults time to regain psychological equilibrium, whether or not children ever recover a stable perspective continues to be debated. Post-divorce hostility between adults, in addition to directly harming kids, is a sure indicator that the emotional split is incomplete. When the emotional toll of a divorce is taking precedence in an individual’s life, it’s important to rely on the legal services of a divorce attorney who can deal with the legality aspects while the individual focuses on coping and caring for the family.